Positivity is the key

Sad? Angry? Jealous? Confused? Been there, done that. I know the feeling, & it sucks. People often ask you to "Cheer up" or "Look on the brighter side", and i also know that they barely help you in situations when you're feeling really down. But take time to analyse things slowly and avoid making any decisions- be it permanent or not. You just have to learn how to always look on the brighter side, because like it or not, the world's not always gonna be in your favour. You have to be strong. And no, my definition of 'strong' isn't putting your guards up all the time & keeping everything to yourself. My definition of strong is.. being yourself & staying optimistic through all the pains & sufferings.

For the past 2 months, i've been experiencing some.. er.. well, my emotions weren't very stable & it affects my behaviour towards my family & friends.. which sucks alot because it causes alot of trust issues. It was really hard for me to open up to anyone because i was pinned with problems after problems during those 2 painful months. But slowly, i learnt how to become optimistic & I've become much happier (as you can see now). And in time, the problems got smaller & smaller, and they're somehow gone with the wind now. It's hard to become optimistic at first, because for me, i was down with problems when i decided to turn into an optimist. But with a great family & some encouraging friends who were there for me, I managed to push all the problems aside and focus on the positive side of everything, (Which was great because i don't feel anytghing but happiness.) However, i wasn't "bulletproof" or anything. I still get jealous, sad, angry and etc. But.. i could just turn my optimism on and look on the brighter side of everything (eventhough it takes time for me to do that sometimes..)

I've realised that this is life, and it's just the start of everything. We'll face harder problems in the future, & we have to prepare for it. You get hurt, you get up, stronger, smarter, better.

The more mistakes you make, the more you'll learn.

There's always a positive & negative side in life. It's up to you to choose which side you want to focus on.
If you choose to go by the negative side, you'll probably end up suffering. You'll start focusing on what you don't have, what could have been, and you'll also start overthinking, which will make things seem worse than they really are, which in turn would make you even more devastated & miserable. It will also cause you to lose concentration in your work/studies, and even gives you tons of suicidal thoughts because you'd just want to end your life because you can't see anything positive anymore. You'll drown in negativity.
But if you choose to look at the positive side of life, you'll start looking at everything you have, what happened, what will happen, and you'll be in control. You won't get sad because you'll feel grateful of what you already have and not bitter because of what you don't have, you'll feel happy when you think of all the good memories & look ahead for a brighter future. You'll start enjoying every little thing, (even if they're chores). You'd start looking for positive outcomes instead of sulking on all the negativity. You'd eventually find hope & faith. Finding hope is very important, it keeps you going. It gives you inspirations, motivations, and a strive to be better or achieve something better.
Instead of going to sleep thinking that tomorrow would be hell again for you, go to sleep thinking that tomorrow will be a better day. It doesn't only make you feel secure, it makes you feel hopeful as well. Some people mistaken hope for desperation. I don't know how to explain it but.. hope & desperation are two very different things! So is love & desperation, okay! Go google the difference if you're so curious. I'm not a pyschologist or whatever, you know. I'm just a 14 year old girl trying to say what's on her mind.
So yeah, for all of you who's having any type of problems, don't hesitate to come to me, okay? I don't really care who you are or what you've done to me, i'm here for you. I'll be your listening ears, okay? You can trust me. And remember what they say- "By sharing your happiness, the happiness doubles. By sharing your problems, the problem gets smaller." 

Here are some ways i became optimistic/happy/positive! They might also work for you as well! You'll never know until you try! :)
-Try to distract yourself with your friends. I'm sure that there is always a friend who's there for you. Spend time with that person! Open up yourself to him/her. Sharing your problems could often calm you down. Your friend could also give you words of advices!
-Make use of your hobby! Hobbies often act as a stress reliever to some people. By doing something you love & enjoy, it might really help you stay happy!
-Go out for a walk. Take a stroll around your house area/a park/ a reservoir/ anything will do! By walking, it also calms you down & gives you an 'alone time' which you can use to reflect on what happened, what you can do, and what might happen in the future!
-Have a bite of your favourite snack! It's good to eat your favourite snack. For me, it's chocolate. So when i'm sad, i'd stuff myself with chocolate or any other sweet treats. HOWEVER, do not over-eat specially if your favourite snacks are unhealthy ones. (if they're healthy, like fruits and veggies, it's fine). If you eat too much unhealthy junk food, it might get you addicted to it, and cause you to gain weight excessively.. And most of the time, it causes multiple self issues. (It makes you insecure of yourself.. hence, losing your confidence, which will effect on your positivity & happiness).

Till then! :-)